Finding creative solutions with neutral assistance.
We offer two types of Mediation – Traditional Family Mediation and Our Family in Two Homes Resource Package.
Traditional Family Mediation
What is it?
Traditional Family Mediation is a family-focused decision-making process whereby parties work together with their neutral Family Mediator to find creative solutions to their divorce issues while avoiding court. The parties commit to focusing on the future and to providing full disclosure of all relevant information throughout the Process. Mediation is not limited to divorcing spouses – you may be unmarried, you may be still living together and want to draft an Interspousal Agreement, you may want to draft a pre-nuptial agreement. A mediator can assist you with all these issues.
Whom is it for?
If you agree with the following statements, Family Mediation may be right for you:
- I want to avoid having the Court decide my future.
- My children’s needs are my priority.
- I want to focus on the future.
- I want to reduce conflict between the other party and me.
- I want a quick and efficient resolution.
If you wish to avoid having lawyers involved in your negotiation process, you will likely agree with the following statements:
- I prefer to involve as few professionals in the process as possible.
- I want costs to stay as low as possible.
- I want to make my own decisions, without being assisted by a lawyer’s opinion during negotiations.
- I believe that I can make myself heard and understood without assistance.
How does the Process work?
Hire a Family Mediator
Each party must meet with the Family Mediator independently prior to committing to the mediation process. This consultation allows each party to fully understand the Process and to allow the Family Mediator to learn about each party’s perspective on the issues for resolution. The Family Mediator’s role is to facilitate the parties’ discussions and to assist the parties to resolve their conflict throughout the Process.
Sign Participation Agreement
Before the Family Mediation process can begin, the parties and the Mediator must review and sign a Participation Agreement which commits all parties to the Process and to avoiding court-imposed resolution.
Engage in joint meetings
First meeting: the parties and the Mediator sign the Participation Agreement, identify each party’s interests (concerns, hopes, expectations, assumptions, priorities, beliefs, fears, values, needs), and create a list of issues and priorities for resolution. Usually time permits for the most pressing issues to be discussed and at least a temporary resolution to be put into place until a longer-term resolution can be reached. A “to do” list is created for all parties at the end of each session so that everyone knows what they must do before or for the following meeting.
Subsequent meetings: we hit the ground running at all subsequent meetings. We address each issue identified for resolution in the priority order as agreed between the parties. Information is exchanged, solutions are brainstormed, and resolution is reached on each issue.
Prepare Final Agreement or Memorandum of Understanding
Once resolution is reached on every topic identified, the Family Mediator will prepare either a final Agreement or a Memorandum of Understanding. The agreements reached in Family Mediation are non-binding on the parties until they document their verbal agreements into a legally-binding format. If the Mediator prepares the Agreement, then the parties should take this Agreement to their own lawyer to have it reviewed and signed separately from the other party. If the Mediator prepares a Memorandum of Understanding, then the parties can take this to their lawyer to be put into a final Agreement or a Court Order.
What role do lawyers play in Family Mediation?
You always have the right to have your lawyer present with you at your mediation session(s) or you may want to consult with your lawyer in between sessions. Many parties, though, choose 3-way meetings including the parties and the Mediator alone, later discussing the final result with their own lawyer.
How long does it take?
Most mediation averages 2-5 sessions at 2 hours per session, which can mean 2-6 months for full resolution. Sometimes parties decide to engage in full-day mediation sessions, which can expedite the process in many cases. The factors that determine the length can include: level of conflict between the parties, number of issues to resolve, and the time required between each meeting.
What are the possible outcomes?
- Reduced conflict.
- Usually less expensive resolution than Court.
- Time-effective resolution.
- Foster or improve communication between the parties.
- More clearly understand differences in opinions.
- Empower each party to be heard.
- Make informed and voluntary choices about your future.
- Focus on the needs and interests of the children.
- Create an effective and sustainable co-parenting plan.
- Future dispute resolution becomes easier between the parties.
Our Family in Two Homes – Resource Package
When going through a separation, you may find that you and your former partner can resolve some things rather easily, but really struggle with other issues. The “Our Family in Two Homes” Resource Package is a Mediation option which helps you tackle the things you can handle on your own, while ensuring you get excellent professional help for the areas of struggle.
What Is It?
The Resource Package is designed to increase the cost efficiency in the Mediation process by allowing each of you to work independently through some issues, while supporting you with Mediator-led sessions for the more challenging or complex issues. The Resource Package includes a Workbook for each parent plus time with the Mediator for a flat rate.
The Workbook provides general information about the law and helpful tips on creating practical agreements that meet legal obligations. Furthermore, it will help parents consider how to bring all the pieces together with a focus on what matters to their family. The Workbook asks many important and focused questions about each individual and his/her future family situation. It helps parents to reflect on things they may not have thought of before, and expands the notion of what is possible. It is intended that each parent will work on their own through the Workbook, and only share their responses with the other parent as much as they feel it appropriate to do so.
The Workbook allows each parent to take his/her own time, with guidance, to reflect on important questions related to the separation within a process that supports each parent to express him/herself effectively and authentically. The Mediator’s role is to guide and advise, knowing the Workbook will help the parents identify areas where they need professional help and areas where both seem to be “doing alright”.
Once you have used all of the included mediation hours, you may arrange additional time with the Mediator at an additional cost. Once agreement has been reached on all topics, the Mediator can help you finalize the documentation. Any additional costs will always be discussed along the way so there are no surprises.
Difference between Traditional Family Mediation and the Resource Package
In Traditional Mediation, we start out our first session setting our agenda and prioritizing the issues to be resolved based on priorities / urgent issues. We simply identify our issues and work through each one sequentially either resolving a dispute or documenting agreements already reached between the parties and adding the level of detail required to meet legal obligations. There is homework / disclosure required along the way, and this will be discussed at each meeting, none of which is required prior to the first joint session.
By contrast, by using the Resource Package you will each be working your way through the Workbook on your own. Then, once you both feel ready to have the Mediator assist you to work through issues you can book time with the Mediator. This way, you will be able to identify where you require assistance and where you do not. The in-person time with the Mediator will be used in the way that you need it most. If you require additional time with the Mediator beyond the included hours, you may extend the hours after discussing additional costs.
In both processes, the Mediator will be able to assist you through the documentation process.
Getting Started with the Resource Package
In order to get started, each party will need to meet with the Mediator separately for an initial consultation. During this consultation, the Mediator will hear your “story” and your perspective on your separation, and you will each learn about the Mediation approach – both Traditional Family Mediation and the Resource Package. Once you both agree to which Mediation approach you prefer, then we will take the next steps to either book your first joint session (Traditional Family Mediation) or provide you with the Resource Package.
We look forward to supporting you and your family through your transition to being in two homes. Please contact our office to book your initial consultation.
Family Mediation FAQ
▶ If we already have an agreement regarding division of assets & debts, do we have to open up that topic in our Family Mediation?