Category Archives: Mediation

The Role of Lawyers in Family Mediation

When families meet with me and wish to use Mediation to resolve their issues relating to their separation and divorce, they often ask whether they need to have a lawyer as well, or if I can finalise everything (being that I am a lawyer and a mediator). Often clients want to use mediation instead of … Continue reading The Role of Lawyers in Family Mediation

The importance of an initial consultation

    People often ask why they need to come in for an initial consultation.  They just have a question that will take “30 seconds” of my time to answer.  I often hear frustration on the other end of the phone when they are advised that they need to come in for a consultation to … Continue reading The importance of an initial consultation

Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces

Divorce and separation can be a very stressful time for parents, and for children.  It is normal for children to feel grief over the loss of the family unit – this can be exacerbated when there is a high level of parental conflict. In situations of extreme conflict, children can suffer a variety of negative … Continue reading Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces

How do I improve transitions for kids between two homes?

We know that toxic stress and chronic conflict negatively impacts kids’ development.  When you are separated and need to deal with facilitating a parenting schedule and exchanging kids, stress and conflict can occur especially at the point of the exchange. Here are some tips to reduce conflict during exchanges and improve kids’ experiences of transition … Continue reading How do I improve transitions for kids between two homes?

How Do I Break the News To My Kids About Our Divorce?

It is going to be difficult to tell your kids that their parents are divorcing. How you tell them, and how you help them deal with their emotions in the aftermath of breaking the news is very important to consider. Here are some tips on breaking the news: Show that you are unified – if … Continue reading How Do I Break the News To My Kids About Our Divorce?

How do I make a “parenting schedule” with my ex when dealing with oilfield hours?

Many separating and divorcing families in our area face this problem of trying to create a schedule to spend time with their kids, but face the challenge of the unreliability of their work hours in the oilfield service industry.  How can this be overcome? I like to re-define the phrase “parenting schedule” when we’re talking … Continue reading How do I make a “parenting schedule” with my ex when dealing with oilfield hours?

Must I go to Court to Get a Divorce?

The simple answer is yes… but maybe not in the way that you think. You must file court papers, and have a judge sign off to finalize your divorce. However, you are not required to fight everything out in court to settle your affairs. There are many options available to have your divorce issues resolved … Continue reading Must I go to Court to Get a Divorce?

TOP 10 TIPS to Keep Legal Fees at a Minimum During Separation or Divorce

10.       Do-It-Yourself – do the paperwork yourself.  I recommend talking to a lawyer, even if only briefly, to ensure that this is the right course for you. 9.         Hire a lawyer as a “coach” – you may need a lawyer to iron out the rough patches, but the rest of the divorce can be done … Continue reading TOP 10 TIPS to Keep Legal Fees at a Minimum During Separation or Divorce

Happy Belated Family Mediation Day – Benefits of Mediation

Valentine’s Day week is pretty awful for an article on divorce to be coming out!  I should just end the article right here… but I won’t.  I’ll try to keep it to a happy tone. The first Wednesday in February (this year it was Feb 6th) is Family Mediation Day in Canada as designated by … Continue reading Happy Belated Family Mediation Day – Benefits of Mediation