Category Archives: Collaborative Divorce

I’ve decided to use the Collaborative Process for my divorce. What do the 4-Way Meetings Look Like?

First things first… CONGRATULATIONS on choosing a process that is going to put your children in the centre, instead of in the middle. As you likely know, the Collaborative Process is based on the idea that all of your discussions about your separation and divorce will occur within the context of “4-way meetings”.  Here is … Continue reading I’ve decided to use the Collaborative Process for my divorce. What do the 4-Way Meetings Look Like?

New York Times – The Good Divorce

Link to Article October 28, 2011 – Susan Gregory Thomas writes about her choice in how to divorce, the Collaborative Divorce.   She recommends that everyone at least do their due diligence before they embark on any choice in divorce.   In doing her due diligence, she read as many articles about the impact of divorce on … Continue reading New York Times – The Good Divorce

Farmers Find a New Approach to Divorce

In many cases, divorces are financially devastating.  This is particularly true for farm families – many litigated outcomes can cause farmers’ operations to be irreparably crippled.  The Collaborative Process can help farmers weather the storm of divorce better. In the Collaborative Process, the separating spouses and their lawyers engage in 4-way meetings to find creative … Continue reading Farmers Find a New Approach to Divorce

Divorcing This Year? Consider Your Options

Before you get too far into your thinking of what solutions you want as far as your post-separation life, you should figure out how you want to get divorced.  There are 3 common approaches you can use.  At the very least, I recommend that you become informed about these process choices so you can be … Continue reading Divorcing This Year? Consider Your Options

My Adult Child Is Going Thru A Divorce. How Can I Best Support Him?

If your adult child is going thru a divorce, it is very important that you support them in the way that they need you most.  The worst thing you could do is to add to the pain that your child is already going thru.  Of course, you wouldn’t do this intentionally, but sometimes in overly … Continue reading My Adult Child Is Going Thru A Divorce. How Can I Best Support Him?

I’ve heard of “Collaborative Family Law” – How do I know if it’s for me?

You’re part of a growing trend of people who have heard about collaborative family law, but aren’t sure if they want to “buy in” to the process. You may have read my article a couple months ago introducing collaborative law as structured process, which offers families an alternative to court in resolving their family dispute, … Continue reading I’ve heard of “Collaborative Family Law” – How do I know if it’s for me?

USA Today – For More Couples, Divorce Can Be On Friendly Terms

Link to Article July 26, 2010 – Karina Bland interviews some former couples who used alternatives to the court system in their divorce – some used mediation, some used the Collaborative Process, and others just used the DIY way.  She also outlines some reasons to choose alternatives – amongst them, setting a positive tone for … Continue reading USA Today – For More Couples, Divorce Can Be On Friendly Terms

Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces

Divorce and separation can be a very stressful time for parents, and for children.  It is normal for children to feel grief over the loss of the family unit – this can be exacerbated when there is a high level of parental conflict. In situations of extreme conflict, children can suffer a variety of negative … Continue reading Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces