Category Archives: Mediation

Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces

Divorce and separation can be a very stressful time for parents, and for children.  It is normal for children to feel grief over the loss of the family unit – this can be exacerbated when there is a high level of parental conflict. In situations of extreme conflict, children can suffer a variety of negative … Continue reading Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces

How do I improve transitions for kids between two homes?

We know that toxic stress and chronic conflict negatively impacts kids’ development.  When you are separated and need to deal with facilitating a parenting schedule and exchanging kids, stress and conflict can occur especially at the point of the exchange. Here are some tips to reduce conflict during exchanges and improve kids’ experiences of transition … Continue reading How do I improve transitions for kids between two homes?

How Do I Break the News To My Kids About Our Divorce?

It is going to be difficult to tell your kids that their parents are divorcing. How you tell them, and how you help them deal with their emotions in the aftermath of breaking the news is very important to consider. Here are some tips on breaking the news: Show that you are unified – if … Continue reading How Do I Break the News To My Kids About Our Divorce?

How do I make a “parenting schedule” with my ex when dealing with oilfield hours?

Many separating and divorcing families in our area face this problem of trying to create a schedule to spend time with their kids, but face the challenge of the unreliability of their work hours in the oilfield service industry.  How can this be overcome? I like to re-define the phrase “parenting schedule” when we’re talking … Continue reading How do I make a “parenting schedule” with my ex when dealing with oilfield hours?

Must I go to Court to Get a Divorce?

The simple answer is yes… but maybe not in the way that you think. You must file court papers, and have a judge sign off to finalize your divorce. However, you are not required to fight everything out in court to settle your affairs. There are many options available to have your divorce issues resolved … Continue reading Must I go to Court to Get a Divorce?

TOP 10 TIPS to Keep Legal Fees at a Minimum During Separation or Divorce

10.       Do-It-Yourself – do the paperwork yourself.  I recommend talking to a lawyer, even if only briefly, to ensure that this is the right course for you. 9.         Hire a lawyer as a “coach” – you may need a lawyer to iron out the rough patches, but the rest of the divorce can be done … Continue reading TOP 10 TIPS to Keep Legal Fees at a Minimum During Separation or Divorce

Happy Belated Family Mediation Day – Benefits of Mediation

Valentine’s Day week is pretty awful for an article on divorce to be coming out!  I should just end the article right here… but I won’t.  I’ll try to keep it to a happy tone. The first Wednesday in February (this year it was Feb 6th) is Family Mediation Day in Canada as designated by … Continue reading Happy Belated Family Mediation Day – Benefits of Mediation

Happy Belated Family Mediation Day – Types of Mediated Disputes

February is supposed to be the month of celebrating love, not divorce.  However, more and more February is becoming one of the busiest months in the world of a divorce professional.  In response to that, I presume, Family Mediation Canada has designated the 1st Wednesday of February as Family Mediation Day. I want to take … Continue reading Happy Belated Family Mediation Day – Types of Mediated Disputes

Divorcing This Year? Consider Your Options

Before you get too far into your thinking of what solutions you want as far as your post-separation life, you should figure out how you want to get divorced.  There are 3 common approaches you can use.  At the very least, I recommend that you become informed about these process choices so you can be … Continue reading Divorcing This Year? Consider Your Options

Huff Post Canada – Family Mediation: The Best Practice For Parents And Their Children When The Marriage Is Over

Link to Article June 20, 2011 – Howard H. Irving, PhD. writes about the devastation he sees amongst children of divorce when parents decide to use the adversarial system to resolve their marriage disputes.   He acknowledges that the first instinct is for parents to lay blame and find fault with the other, but that when … Continue reading Huff Post Canada – Family Mediation: The Best Practice For Parents And Their Children When The Marriage Is Over