Category Archives: Divorce

‘Pathogenic Parenting’ – What is it?

If you hang around courtrooms or like to read about the latest in mental health and parenting, you may have heard the term ‘pathogenic parenting’.  But what does it mean?  You’ve likely heard the term ‘parental alienation’ which refers to the situation where one parent alienates (or negatively influences) the child towards the other parent. … Continue reading ‘Pathogenic Parenting’ – What is it?

I Have to Go to Court and Don’t Know What to Expect

Do you have any upcoming court date?  If so, you may be experiencing some anxiety because you don’t know what to say or do, or how to conduct yourself in court.  If you have a lawyer, it will be your lawyer’s job to speak to the judge and present your case (this applies to docket … Continue reading I Have to Go to Court and Don’t Know What to Expect

The importance of an initial consultation

    People often ask why they need to come in for an initial consultation.  They just have a question that will take “30 seconds” of my time to answer.  I often hear frustration on the other end of the phone when they are advised that they need to come in for a consultation to … Continue reading The importance of an initial consultation

When Can A Child Legally Decide Where They Want to Live?

The issue of where a child should live following a divorce or separation is a common one.  Parents constantly tell me that their child is telling them which parent they want to live with.  The question often becomes how to ensure that the child’s voice is heard and given proper attention, without allowing them to … Continue reading When Can A Child Legally Decide Where They Want to Live?

Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces

Divorce and separation can be a very stressful time for parents, and for children.  It is normal for children to feel grief over the loss of the family unit – this can be exacerbated when there is a high level of parental conflict. In situations of extreme conflict, children can suffer a variety of negative … Continue reading Reducing the effects of conflict on children in high conflict divorces

The Child’s Voice in Legal Proceedings – Part 2

In the last issue, we discussed the importance of including a child’s voice in custody and access disputes.  In this issue, we will discuss some of the potential ways that this can occur. Generally, a judge will not allow a child to testify in court or to swear an affidavit, however, there is technically no … Continue reading The Child’s Voice in Legal Proceedings – Part 2

How Do I Break the News To My Kids About Our Divorce?

It is going to be difficult to tell your kids that their parents are divorcing. How you tell them, and how you help them deal with their emotions in the aftermath of breaking the news is very important to consider. Here are some tips on breaking the news: Show that you are unified – if … Continue reading How Do I Break the News To My Kids About Our Divorce?

I want to separate from my spouse, but I can’t afford it… what do I do?

There are a number of people that seem to be in the same boat these days. The answer is not simple. If you make the decision to leave your spouse, you will likely have things that need to be resolved before you can move on with your life – that may cost some money. How … Continue reading I want to separate from my spouse, but I can’t afford it… what do I do?

If I’m divorced, who will look after my kids in the event of my death?

The laws in Alberta vs. Saskatchewan regarding guardianship of children after the passing of one parent are quite different. Some parents think that it’s automatically the other parent that will get the kids. On the other hand, some parents try to put it in their Will as to who will get their kids, and it’s … Continue reading If I’m divorced, who will look after my kids in the event of my death?